Friday, October 29, 2010

Something about My Father... part 1

Can you tell about your father? When a question like this appears, 90% of them will say more than 1000 words, but another 10% will think again including me. What to story, did i have any memories with him? No! that is my answer. I have nothing to store into my mind, during this 30 years time. Even the word 'ayah' (father) is so rare and very unfamiliar to my tongue. Honestly, just a few times i used the word, only when somebody asked about him. My family members is not complete as many of you. I have been raised by 'atok' (grandfather) almost of my life and he is the only man that from him i learned to be a man. This is the reality and this is my fate. Do i regret? No, i am not. Do i miss him? Yes, sometimes but something that i want to know is what he wanted me to be. One day i will meet him and i belief there will be in this life or afterlife.

My father was born in 12 August 1955 at Kampung Kubang Halban, Kuala Kangsar, Perak. He attended school in the Clifford School Kuala Kangsar during his youth. Then he starts working at Kenderaan Klang Banting Berhad (KKBB) as a ticket conductor, after 4 years he promoted to the clerk position. There he met my mother and they married in 1977. My sister born a year later followed by me in 1980.

My mother tells me that we live in squatter house at Sungei Way, a couple of year after we moved to Kg Delek, Klang. He likes to keep the goldfish in a small aquarium and after he returns from work, he will stare on the fish for a moment. A few days before he died, my father took us back to Kuala Kangsar for celebrating his sister's wedding. He couldn't stay because of some work. A few days later, on the big day the telegram arrived and everybody got shocked, he was past away. He died alone in 17 August 1981 at Kg Delek, Klang, Selangor at age 26 years old.

by firrdhaus sahabuddin

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Architecture Malaysia Magazine : February 2004

Almost 7 years since my thesis was published in the Architecture Malaysia Magazine. The thesis is about an innovation on how to accommodate graves (cemetery) in a limited land area such as Malaysia and other country that facing a problem on land usage. Basically, the design is translation of the ritual processes done by muslim. The building planning is a translation of all steps in managing the deceased. Normally a group of people will do it on behalf of deceased's family. There was a drastic change for the burial niches, which it has been designed on ground (multiple storey), meanwhile the traditional is underground. Why? Because, burial niches could be a symbolic structure to enlighten the public awareness and to give the massage that death will happen to anyone. If this awareness being observed then peoples will behave. That was the inner intention of having the burial niches at the center of the city. Hopefully, its existance could promote a better community.

During the study progress, i observed and studied about burial method from all of the major religions in the world such as Islam, Kristian, Judaism, Hindu & Buddha. And from my observation, all religions have a great respect for the dead during the funeral. The respect is not among the same faith but between the different religion too. It is similar from the hadith recited by Rasulullah (Muhammad s.a.w), the hadith is closely means like this " if the deceased through in front of you, either muslim or not you should stand up and give a mark of respect". Because the deceased is in the journey to the other life and it is for the last for his/her exists on earth. While there are those (deceased's relatives) in the mourn emotion, it is wrong to rejoice in front of them.

The thesis was very meaningful to me because it gave a deeper understanding about a relationship between a man and God. Why we exist? For what we live? And the hidden massage during the funeral ritual from the deceased is dead until the deceased is buried. Why march to the grave is so important and talkin reading as well? The ritual is for the deceased but the massage is for the living. That is for sure. There are so many things we can learn and mortem during the process. That is the beauty of live and death events.

by firrbudi @ Maju Tower : 07 Oktober 2010

Monday, October 4, 2010